How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Rules to Make People Like you. If you want people to like you.........

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

     If you become genuinely interested in other people you will be welcome at any place/ household. I strongly agree with this quote by Dale Carnegie because when I meet new people, I have a strong interest and curiosity in learning more about them. You would make more friends in month of being interested in people than in a year of someone being interested in you. The only way to make quality, lasting friendships is to learn to be genuinely interested in them and their interests. People love to talk about themselves, but never take into consideration that if you ask about someone else interests for a change, they'll love you for it. You should focus on being interested, not interesting.There is a big difference. Interesting is about you, interested is about them. I will apply this new way to my life by taking more interest into my friends and family instead of being self-centered.

Rule 2: Smile

     A simple smile can go a long way when you greet someone or meet someone. Actions speak louder than words, and a smile can speak for itself. When you smile at someone, it basically means you are happy to see them. If you are not in the mood to smile, then force yourself to smile. A smile does a few things in several aspects of your life. First off, it will bring happiness to your home. If you wake up in the morning and smile, it will make everyone in your household feel the good vibes coming from you. A smile can also rub off on someone. For example: if someone sees you smiling, they will start too without noticing. Secondly, smiling will also benefit you in a work environment. It will uplift your coworkers and your/their mood at work. Lastly, a smile can cause you to make new friends. It is usually a sign of positivity when you meet someone and they give you a warm smile. It makes them feel welcomed into your life, and they will want to be around you more. 

Rule 3: Remember names

      Something very important to get people to like you is remembering who they are and what name they go by. A person is interested more in their name than all the other names combined. It makes a person feel very special when you remember their name because it shows a piece of your mind remembers them. A person's name is the most unique and identities word a person has a connection to. When we remember peoples name, it shows a sign of courtesy and a way of recognizing them. When a person remembers our name after meeting us, we feel respected and more important. It makes a positive and lasting impact on us. When we don't remember a name and people have to repeat is several timesit makes us feel a little unappreciated. To apply this new rule to my life I will repeat peoples names over and over so I will not forget them and learn them easily

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
     If you want to make a good converstaion with someone, you have to be a good listener. When you are talking to someone, they are far more interested in themselves than in others.When someone shares something they love or enjoy they will feel good when they talk and associate those feelings with you. It is a winning formula for making friends as well as influencing people. When you talk to someone you should ask alot of questions about them. In no time you will see the positive results in your life. I will apply this new way to my life by engaging in conversations with new people and asking lots of questions. For me it is very fulfilling to hear about peoples lives, because not everyone has the same aspirations, goals, or dreams. I will from now on encourage other people to talk about themselves, and not be so self indulged in the conversation all the time

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest
    Talking in terms of the other persons interest is not that hard.It just takes the willingness and patience to be a good listener and the smarts to ask a few good questions. The willingness and patience are the hardest things for most people for a few reasons. This could be because we want to be known or because we aren't good listeners.If you can be a good listener and talk in terms of the other person’s interests it can end up being fun because you get to know more about another person and you might learn about something new. This week I will  be focused on being a good listener and engage people on their terms based on their interests. 

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely
     Being sincere helps someone believe that you are a genuine person. By being sincere you are making the other person feel more comfortable. This will lead to a more interesting conversation. This is a great trait because if you make them feel comfortable, then they are more likely to open up. When you can make people open up it makes them know you actually care. For example, someone can just fake it and not be genuine when talking to you. They will most likely be using sarcasm because they don't know how to make you feel comfortable. Someone that will usually always be genuine and make you feel comfortable will be your mother. She is usually always there for when you need her. I go to her when I need something.

Reflection :
      The six rules of making people like you is very important. It really helped me think about the things that people might actually like. 

9 Ways to be Happy and Make Something of your Life

Gordon B. Hinckley

1. Be Grateful 

       Being grateful is being thankful.You must always be grateful for everything someone does for you. Never take anything for granted. Do not make people feel bad for then trying to help you. Say thank you and next time do an act of kindness for them. If some one tries to or does something helpful be grateful and return the favor. Karen Salmansohn quoted "you gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in your sad, the gain in your pain, and what makes you grateful not hateful". That is a really good quote because it explains what you have to look for. This quote gives us motivation to show us that when we are sand that there could be happiness coming our way. No matter how bad or good you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. That is why there is always something to be grateful for.

2. Be Smart
      Being smart is more than the ability to talk a good game. There's also math smarts, history smarts, and smarts for everything else they teach in school. And finally, one big smarts is social smarts. That's the ability to figure out other people, and what they really mean when they say and do things. Being smart is to having good understanding or a high mental capacity. Even quick to comprehend. There is a vast difference between education and intelligence. Both ideas involve knowledge; however, they are fundamentally different concepts. Intelligence is an innate and natural ability that we are born with. It involves our natural abilities. Being smart is not choosing the wrong.

3. Be Involved
      Being involved is more than just standing around in a group. It's impossible to be involved in all situations, but there's no excuse not to be involved in something, somewhere, somehow, with someone. Make an ounce of difference. Everyday in school i get involved I am in a school club that helps the environment. We go to beach clean up and we go to food banks to help people out. Zadie Smith said “Involved is neither good nor bad. It is just a consequence of living, a consequence of occupation and immigration, of empires and expansion, of living in each other's pockets... one becomes involved and it is a long trek back to becoming uninvolved.” Getting involved and making change is the least someone can do.

4. Be Clean
      Being clean is very important because it shows that you can be a neat and organized person. Cleaning is an essential part of everyday life, and you really can't avoid it. You should be clean when everyone is watching, but also when no one is watching. If you are a clean person, it reflects on the way you carry yourself. It is very important to be clean in all aspects of your life, not just one or two. I believe the most critical part of being clean is personal hygiene. Implementing good personal hygiene practices has both health and social benefits. In health, you are less likely to catch sickness or diseases. In social, people are more likely going to want to interact with you because you are not dirty.

5. Be True
      Being true is being honest. Being true to yourself means to act in accordance to who you are and what are the things you believe in. If you know and love yourself well, acting true to self will feel effortless and natural. A saying goes, "You can't love anyone else before you love yourself.", and it applies the same way to "You can't be true to anyone else until your true to yourself." You should never take action to pretend to be someone else for acceptance. A lot of times, us young people believe we should do things to please our peers, such as partying and drinking. We go against our common sense or advice of our parents, only to involve ourselves in trouble and not accomplish what we are set out to do. If you do things that don't feel genuine/ do not reflect the real you, you will end up unhappy and confused.In order to be true to yourself, it takes massive courage. It requires you to be open-minded and sincere. However, this doesn't mean you are inconsiderate to others, it just means you will not let others define you or make decisions that you should be making. You should always be true to yourself and live your life with your highest aspirations and values.

6. Be Positive
      You should always try to be positive in your life because it will make everything feel better. You have to focus on the fantastic things you have going for you right now, not the negative things. You wont only feel better but you'll have a happier lifestyle. If you start to change your attitude to a positive one, you will start to notice the difference immediately. Being positive can also help you be active, you will have more energy and motivation. If you carry positive throughout within your mind, they are very likely to have positive outcomes.A negative attitude may lead to decreased productivity, so if you change it to positive, you will get more done. One example of thus new way can be seen within myself. Whenever I am going through a problem or issue, I never let it bring me down completely. I have the power to resist negative thoughts if I replace them with positive thoughts. I've been told many times that I must never be sad since I always have a smile on my face. That's because I am the only one who can control my happiness and I like to be happy. I can find happiness because I always try my best to carry a positive attitude, because even if you fake it at first, it becomes such a habit that it comes out as natural after a period of time. You can also be a better friend if you are positive, after all no one likes that friend who never has anything nice to say. Being a positive person can have a great impact on those that surround you also, even if you don't realize it. Happiness is contagious, and you can lift people's moods just based on the attitude you carry. Also, I have realized that being positive has made me the confident person that I am today. No one can bring me down with negative thoughts if I immediately replace them with positive ones.

7. Be Humble
      No matter what you do, no matter how lucky you are, never boast about being better than others. Not being humble will bring down your character and make people not want to hang around with you. We should be grateful and appreciative of what we have/ do not have in this life. You need to be a CTR person 24/7 in order to be humble, in other words the first step. CTR 24/7 isn't just a motto, it is a lifestyle.  It is important to become a CTR person. If you become a CTR person, then the ethics of each choice will become clear. They will each weigh in, and you will be able to realize the outcome. If you can realize the outcome, then you can make the decision easier. If the right decision is made easier, then you are more likely to choose it again. If you choose to be a CTR person, then you will definitely choose it again. If you choose the right, then the rest will follow. If you choose the right, then you are showing good character and working hard. Being humble is one of the most important parts of Choosing the Right.I will apply this new way to myself by always appreciating what I have and not showing it off to others. No-one likes someone who boasts because they can make a person feel bad. This is why I pledge to be humble 24/7 and also be a CTR person.

8. Be Still
      I agree with this way by Gordon B Hinckley. We all have very rushed and busy lives, which leads to us never having time for ourselves. To be still is to be calm and at peace with your mindset. For example, if you go to the river, there may be birds chirping and occasionally a fish might jump in and out of the water. There you can be at peace & meditate or ponder to yourself about life itself. It is important to be still whenever we have a chance too, because if we are still for too long life will move on without us. There is a quote in the Bible that stands out to me a lot and it goes : "Be still and know that I am God." This means that we need to be motionless/silent when experiencing God himself. When we are still and quiet, we put ourselves in a pos lives and peace to our souls. We are more receptive to the things of the Spirit, thereby enabling us to grow closer to the Lord. I will apply this new way to my life by taking timeouts at least once a day to reflect on who I am as a person.

9. Be Prayerful 
      

Final Reflection
    Overall, I feel that by learning and writing about these 9 ways to be happy and make something out of your life, I have grown deeply as a person. Each day that I came into Mr. Hay more's class and discovered a new way, I started to apply them to my daily life. Now that the 9 Ways have come to an end, I feel happy and excited to continue to apply these to my life, not just now but also in the future. Over the past couple weeks that I have been applying these ways into my lifestyle, I can reflect and say that they have helped me to become a happier and better version of myself. Now that I have substantial knowledge of these 9 ways, I hope to share them with all of my family and friends, so that they too can be happy. I really enjoyed learning about this concept because it is not something that I am taught in my English or math class. I really want to thank Mr.Haymore for opening my eyes and being able to show me these 9 ways so that I can continue being a CTR person.